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Monday, December 29, 2008

It was a year today

Sigh, it was a year today that Mum passed away, not something you can forget and less so at this time of year. You can't help remember that last Christmas Day you were rushing to and from hospital.

Of course its MUCH harder for dad. You "know" you will outlive your parents, whereas he always expected to go first (high blood pressure and diabetes) and they were married 55 years and known each other for 61. And of course he finds the house empty.

Someone asked me last night how I coped, well I just think of how she was at the end and I know she never wanted that.

I'm going to have dinner with Dad tonight and of course I'm thinking about Mum.


Jane said...

Try to keep your memories happy ones. Have a good dinner with your Dad and try to make him laugh. Last year my husband lost his brother to cancer, the loss is still so raw for his Mum who is now in her 70's. Losing anyone is terrible, but especially painful at this time of year. I will be thinking about you and your Dad. Jane

Pete said...


much harder for a parent to lose a child. My cousin lost her 18 year old son which was much harder for her than me.

oldcrow61 said...

It must be a difficult time for you and your dad. Lots of Hugs.

Liz said...

So sorry Pete, I can't begin to imagine how it must feel.

I hope you and your dad are ok, and as already said think of the good times rather than the hospital visits.

avalon said...

thinking of you and dad love and hugs x

Eagleseagles said...

Tough day - eh?

Hope you and your Dad can share some happy memories along with the sad feelings.

It gets easier but you will still feel pain occasionally but your Mum will want you two to look after each other.


Toffeeapple said...

Such a sad time for you both. Enjoy your time with your father tonight, I shall take a glass of wine and drink to your continued good health.

Anonymous said...

I didn't realize it was a whole year; feels like it was only a few months. It's tough for anyone to lose someone in their immediate family, or a spouse (especially someone so long-term).

I found I hadn't come out of the grieving process for my father till the bad dreams stopped and I remembered him as he was. Maybe that will take you a while -- but I hope you and your Dad continue to feel better, and that you have a bright 2009.

I'm sorry if I've been quiet over the past month or so... things shift in one's thoughts and life, and maybe I won't be blogging so much... but I don't really know yet. Maybe it was just a rocky patch over the festivities. Keep quacking!