Wedding planner Barry Long reckons that more and more couples are banning children from the weddings.
It's definitely become more prevalent. We do more than 200 weddings a year and the last seven were all saying 'no children'. I think it's because children are more disruptive than they used to be and brides are worried they will ruin their day.
It can get really bad and ruin the whole day and that's why I say to brides 'if you're going to do it, do it for everyone.
And I can attest to this. Many years my cousin C banned all children from her wedding except for the children who were bridesmaids. Another cousin J, and her mother, refused to attend the wedding because they were upset that their children were banned and anyway C had been a bridesmaid at J's wedding. I think various aunts and uncles didn't talk for a while.
Carol Richards of the website Confetti say some brides do get carried away, driven by the image of a "perfect" celebrity wedding.
It can split families and it's about respecting each other's wishes, which on an issue like this can be difficult. But you need to get it out in the open early so everyone knows where you stand. And be prepared for a rough ride.
I do find it all a bit odd, I can never understand these couples who spend thousands on a wedding. Yes they have a "perfect day" but then they find they have piles of debt. And may I say I find it a bit hypocritical when couples who NEVER attend church want a church wedding becuase she wants to wear a nice dress and be a princess - BLEURGH!
My friend Min probably thinks I'm anti-child but I do think weddings should be family occasions. But then this is probably just another part of something I've bemoaned on this blog before and that is the breakdown of the family unit. Although I might have some sympathy with the bride given that some parents think their little angel should be allowed to run around everywhere and irritate people who have nothing to with them.